Shouldn’t be surprised

by Amy on July 29, 2010

I took the kids to get eye exams today. At Harper’s 5 year check up, our pediatrician noted that she had some eye dominance on the right side, so she recommended a check up. So I made the appointment and decided to get Cole checked while we were there just to be sure he was fine.

Cole has 20/20 vision. He is, however, moderately to severely color blind. The doctor has a book of those color dot pictures, and Cole only got one. So I guess that’s pretty significant, but in the grand scheme of things, okay.

Then Harper. She was so good and tried so hard to do everything the doctor asked. At one point she was too small for the equipment and had to sit on her knees to see through the machine. She has very good vision in her right eye, but her left eye is not great. It’s not a huge prescription, but I guess she has some astigmatism too. She has to get glasses that she’ll need to wear all the time and then she has to go get rechecked in four weeks. If her eye isn’t doing better, then she’s going to have to wear a patch over her good eye until her other eye improves.

My baby girl, the four-eyed pirate. Arg!

So we’re in the market for new glasses, preferably pink.

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Busy Week

by Doug on July 25, 2010

The kids & I are kind of zoning out after a long week. (Amy’s making a fancy dinner). I guess it started the past weekend with the kids & I going to Ohio for a little trip. That was followed by having to put Keesha down on Monday, and then on Tuesday my sister and parents came to visit. My folks just visited for the evening, but Emily & her family stayed for several days. The kids had a *blast*. I’m always so tickled to see how well my kids get along with Emily’s kids. Harper idolizes Lucy and Cole & Mia share a lot of interests. But that also led to some long days — kids just kept playing until later in the evening. They were just having so much fun, it seemed like a shame to put them to bed.

On Friday, we went to the fair in the blazing heat – rode some rides, ate some fair food, and saw some of the animals that hadn’t yet been loaded up. On Saturday, we had friends over for a long time, swimming and grilling. That was punctuated by a thunder storm at bedtime which is always a treat. The power went out for a few hours, leading to the kids falling asleep in our bed. Cole had trouble getting back to sleep when we transferred him to his own bed. Today has gone pretty fast. We didn’t do a whole lot this morning. You could tell Cole wasn’t quite himself when he lost it over a half-eaten hot dog Amy threw away after Cole complained it was burnt (it was) and requested a PB&J. This afternoon, the kids & I went to see Despicable Me which was a cute little movie. Harper enjoyed it plenty, but Cole was getting some big belly laughs out of it. (He particularly liked the “dart gun/fart gun” confusion.)

Tonight it’s beautiful out, and Cole and I just got back from taking Brooksey on a 2 block walk. Hopefully we get the kids to bed at a reasonable time, and manage a little more relaxation.

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Keesha

by Doug on July 19, 2010

(Cross-posting this from the other blog).

Keesha ready for some head petting

Today we had to put Keesha to sleep. It’s been close to five years since I last had to write one of these posts. In fact, the first ode to a dog who had passed, Shady, was the subject of my first blog post.

Keesha was 14 years old. Amy adopted her from a shelter in Bloomington, days – maybe hours – away from being put down. She was only about a year old and as sweet as can be, but I believe she had been adopted by a family and didn’t work with them. In any event, the shelter was simply out of room. When Amy adopted her, she was skinny and shy. Mealtime with Brooksey presented some challenges because Keesha, having lived on the mean streets of Bloomington, gulped down food as fast as she could eat it and wasn’t inclined to share. Once she figured out that food would be steady, she settled down and let Brooksey have her share. (Not to say that Brooksey didn’t get nudged out of the way from time-to-time when there were tasty things in the dog bowls.) She quickly put on weight as well. In fact, she put on so much weight at one point that my buddy declared, “she’s an ottoman!”

About the only negative effect that hung on from her time as a stray (and this could have just been part of her nature) was her fear of thunderstorms. Back when she could get up into the bed, you were apt to wake up wearing Keesha as a hat when storms were rolling through.

She was generally the alpha dog, but not terribly assertive. She’d tolerate a certain amount of crap from overbearing puppies, but eventually she’d snarl them into place if they got too rambunctious. Brooksey and Shady never much challenged her. In fact, the only time there was an altercation between Brooksey and Keesha, Brooksey won decisively. It was my fault; I was on the couch eating some leftover Thanksgiving turkey out of a doggie bag. Shady was standing near me, hoping for some. Keesha edged closer, causing Shady to give a little puppy snarl. The ridiculousness of puppy Shady challenging Keesha with her tiny little snarl made me laugh. But that stopped pretty quickly as Keesha made some sort of move toward me (nothing aggressive – she was just trying to get some turkey), Brooksey came flying out of nowhere and latched on to Keesha’s neck (quite literally scaring the poop out of Keesha.) We think Brooksey thought Keesha was going to hurt me.

Keesha (left) and Brooksey (right) at dog camp

But, Keesha had the sweetest disposition. A stranger was just an opportunity for love. “Nobody loves love as Keesha loves love.” Her ears would go back on her head, her tail would wag hopefully, and she was just about impossible not to pet. She also had a great yowl – often heard when demanding her other great love: puppy treats. At the end, when she stopped wanting puppy treats, we knew something was desperately wrong.

Keesha had endured many health challenges over the years. At the end, she was blind, she had been diabetic and getting insulin shots twice per day for the past seven years, she survived a stroke two years ago, she had degenerative neuropathy (a doggie MS), and she had a mighty hump caused by a fatty tumor. For all of that, she still seemed to love life; happily demanding her puppy treat every day. As an old dog, she even learned a new trick a year or two ago. While staying at Amy’s mom’s house, Keesha learned that if she went outside there, she’d get a treat. So, she tried to parlay this into more treats at home – she’d ask to go out, step outside, then want to come right back in and get her treat. As I said, though, recently she did not take any joy even in that. And so, Amy and I had to make the decision to put her down. That was tough. Even tougher for the kids. Cole wasn’t old enough to know what was happening with Shady, and Harper hadn’t even been born. (In fact, Amy let me know she was pregnant with Harper the evening after we put Shady to sleep.) Needless to say, when we explained what was happening and let them say their goodbyes, Cole and Harper were very sad. I think they’re coming to terms with it, but it is a very sad thing when your dog dies, especially if you feel the duty to affirmatively act to end their suffering.

Keesha and me, kayaking at dog camp

Some other Keesha memories, in no particular order:

Apparently she climbed up to the top of the back of a couch up against a wall in Amy’s apartment in Monticello. It didn’t seem to dawn on her until half way across that it was, in Amy’s words describing Keesha’s thought process, “NARROW!”

We loved playing a game where Amy and I would stand a ways apart in the yard and call for Keesha. She would cheerfully come barreling (and there is no other way to describe her running other than ‘barreling’) toward the person calling her and get some love. Then the other person would call for her, and she’d happily barrel back. Rinse. Repeat.

Her hair would shed outrageously. Twice per year she’d blow her coat. And, when she did, she smelled oddly good.

Her hair was made for cooler climates. We used to joke that the happiest time in her life was when our furnace went out for a few days in the dead of winter. Finally, the house was being kept at a reasonable temperature and everybody wanted to snuggle up to her.

When we first moved into our house in Monticello, I loved watching Keesha and Brooksey tearing around excited about all the new space after having been apartment dwellers for so long. At some point while moving in, I saw Keesha eating a treat and didn’t think much of it, figuring Amy had given her a treat. Then about 10 minutes later, I saw her eating another one. Turns out she had found a tub with treats in it, and was just helping herself to them one-by-one. There was a similar type incident when she was down in Bloomington, involving a Taco Bell burrito. Rather than just wolf it down on the spot, she was caught slinking away to another room, holding the burrito gently in her mouth.

For some reason, I felt compelled to sing songs to Keesha. Among others, there was “Oh Keesha, you came and you saw and you found me, now I’m giving you love oh Keesha.” (sung to the tune of “Mandy.”) And there was “Down on Keester Island” (sung to the tune of “Thunder Island.”) And, for whatever reason, I liked to greet her by saying “Kuh-kuh-kuh-Keesha!”

I think she hung on so long because she dearly loved her people; and certainly we worked so hard on her health for so long because we loved her. But, at the end, we all wear out one way or another and Keesha was finally at the end. She was a very good dog. Rest now Keesha. We miss you.

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Birthday Bash Road Trip

by Doug on July 18, 2010

The kids & I took a little road trip this weekend to Marysville, Ohio to take part in an annual birthday bash held by a friend of mine. (Also see). It was his 40th birthday, and the 25th one of these parties. I think it’s about the third one I have attended, but they have been well spaced, so I think I have caught the developing flavor of the events. The first one I made was in, I believe, 1993. That was, for all intents and purposes, a jumped up college party. The next one was probably in the late 90s/early 00s and struck me as a bit more transitional – everyone had been working for some time, and there were some families, but there was still at least a touch of alcohol-fueled mayhem. This time, the kids outnumbered the adults and, while there was some beer and margaritas, the adults behaved themselves any mayhem was kid generated.

A side story to this post is the value of Twitter and Facebook for “ambient intimacy.” I haven’t seen these folks in person for a good long time – years and years; but because we’ve been going back and forth with the random minutiae of our lives, it felt more like going to see someone I visited with on a weekly basis. (Minor, relatively unremarkable example – Ben is getting out icy pops for the kids; Harper comes for hers, and Ben says, “let me guess – pink”. Sure, she’s a little girl, and knowing she likes pink doesn’t exactly make him Kreskin, but the way he said it was based on the fact that he was very aware of Harper’s love of all things pink.)

Also notable about this trip – the kids’ first night in a tent. As things have gotten more crowded at the annual birthday bash, tenting in the back yard has become common. This year, it wasn’t strictly necessary because there was plenty of room in the recently finished basement, but once the kids became aware that sleeping overnight in a tent was a possibility, that was going to be the plan. They did very well. Obviously playing with other kids all day and then staying up well past their bedtimes (Cole was happy to see the Little Dipper, and Harper loved the fireflies) greases the skids, but they were very good about getting in their sleeping bags, laying still, and going to sleep. I hung out with them for about 5 – 10 minutes but then let them know I was going down to the fire to chat with the adults, and there were no problems and no call backs. (I had some difficulty getting to sleep once it was time, but that wasn’t their fault.)

I thought taking the trip was going to give Amy some nice time alone at home to catch up on work after her root canal, but mainly it just allowed her to hang out through a huge storm that roared through Lafayette and downed part of a tree in our front yard. So, I think the kids & I got the better end of this deal.

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10th Anniversary

by Doug on July 15, 2010

Today marks 10 years that Amy & I have been married. It hardly feels that way. We had been dating quite a while (4 years) before we got married, so we sailed past 10 years together quite some time ago. The wedding itself was essentially a party to celebrate the fact that we had already decided to spend our lives together. We’d been together since February of 1996, I had relocated to the Monticello area to be with her, we bought a house together in 2000. (When we started looking, I knew I was going to propose, but she didn’t yet.)

Since then, we’ve settled down in Lafayette which is a city that really works well for both of us, I think. We have had two wonderful children. This thing might just work out!

I’m afraid our actual 10th anniversary wasn’t very eventful. We’ll just have to call her root canal yesterday our gift to each other. (Her not being in agony is a gift to me, too!) Dinner was carry-out Thai food which I think Harper enjoyed more than anyone. The flood of well-wishes for us on Twitter and Facebook was a little unexpected, and made me happy. One of the things that drew me to Amy right from the start was that she was a tech-geek. In early 1996, I hadn’t quite figured out how to ftp things from my computer to the Internet. She showed me. She also knew how to pronounce “Masson” right from the start. (MASS-un). She’s a keeper!

Happy anniversary, Amy!

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Swimming

by Doug on July 11, 2010

After living in a house with a pool for approximately 3 weeks, the kids’ swimming skills have improved dramatically. Harper has gone from needing to be practically swaddled head-to-toe in various flotation devices to mostly just using a vest in the deep end and not needing anything in the shallow end. And Cole, yesterday, went off the diving board with no vest at all and was able to swim in the deep end. He can now do the back stroke, doggie paddle, and swim under water. It’s also pretty good exercise.

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Fourth of July

by Doug on July 4, 2010

This evening, we took the kids downtown to see the fireworks at Riehle Plaza. They put on a good show, and the looks on the kids’ faces were priceless. This was their first proper fireworks show. Last year, we took them to Mt. Rushmore, but it was cloudy and the fireworks were mainly just bursts of light behind the clouds. This time, it was a clear night out and we had a great view.

Cole at the Fireworks

Cole watching fireworks

Earlier in the evening, we lit driveway fireworks. Considering how much of that crap I lit up in my misspent youth, it’s surprising how much I don’t like them. They’re not that impressive, and I mostly worry about the one that misfires or scorches the driveway or lands on the neighbor’s house or whatever.

I guess they’ve made them safer, but what a horrible idea sparklers are. Here kid, have some flaming metal. Why are you just standing there? Run around, and flail your arms about as you do. Why one? Have two!

Still, we did a lot of swimming and watched stuff explode. So, I’d say it has been a successful Fourth.

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